My wife and I were walking on the West Beach in Lossiemouth last month. Among the many fine beaches of the Moray coast, I hadn't visited that particular one for perhaps three decades. We generally prefer Hopeman, Burghead or Findhorn. Not just for their proximity to our home near Forres but because each offers a variety of delights besides mere sand and gunmetal sea. However, last month on a fine weekend, it was Lossiemouth. The jet planes from the RAF base (formerly RNAS Fulmar and the only naval air base to be announced 'sunk' during the war by the German propaganda machine) were silent and the North Sea lapped the white sand with rare benevolence.
My wife took off her shoes and, as we passed a chap walking his dog, he turned to her and said, 'Be careful of your bare feet, there's quite a lot of broken glass about.' She thanked him, we patted his dog and were about to move on when he looked at me a second time.
I looked at him and in that moment 46 years disappeared.
Eric Adam, now 60, had been my closest childhood friend between the ages of seven and 14, standing half a year younger than me and half a year older than my brother.
It was with Eric that I learned how girls worked. With Eric that we roamed the countryside on bicycles, explored the cliffs, risked the caves, lifted the gulls eggs from their nest, played cowboys amid the inland dunes of the Spey Valley. But mainly we went to movies and the municipal swimming baths.
The manager of the local baths took an interest in us three boys which, today, might be thought suspicious but in those more innocent times seemed quite properly friendly and helpful. We shared a changing cubicle, dived, ran, raced and spent shivering hours in our knitted swimming trunks under the hot showers, listening to other voices echo to the prefabricated roof of the Munro Baths.
And then we went to the movies. The 'fillums' were not just escape and pleasure, they were ceremony. Elgin had two cinemas, the Playhouse, the Picture House. The programmes changed every two days and since it was always a double bill this meant a menu of some 12 films a week. And that was just Elgin. Lossiemouth, too, had a cinema. Forres had one. So did Nairn. Even tiny Dufftown, where two distilleries were the sole support of the community, had an especially charming cinema, possibly (and impossibly) called the Dufftown Regal. With a little hard work on your bicycle pedals – weather was simply never a factor since like all childhoods the sun shone constantly in mine – and a few shillings, this range of films was as extensive a choice as anything Rupert Murdoch can offer today and probably no more costly.
Eric and Peter and I shared all our childhood experiences with one exception. Peter and I seemed to belong to a family prone to dying. The funerals of my father, when I was eight, my grandparents, aunts and other relatives were ours alone to witness. Some of them searing, fundamentally changing losses. Most of them ending in the bleak cemetery which straddles a wind-blasted hill between Elgin and New Elgin. Only when those rites were concluded did Eric join us once again in our more prosaic rituals.
The Lossiemouth beach walk became a slow stroll as Eric and I had an animated exchange of memories. We made little reference to the intervening 46 years; adulthood, work, marriage, children and other relevant events which had changed two Elgin 'loons' into grey-haired men given to death-postponing exercise on the beach, were simply assumed. Instead we concentrated on those few years of our shared past. He told my wife anecdotes of our childhood days together which never happened. I reminded him of other events and stories to which his blank expression gave the lie.
But it was a fine reunion. As we reached our respective cars, Eric had one last tale to tell. It was of my brother, Peter, who died of multiple cancers on his 36th birthday.
'You won’t know this,' said Eric. 'But I was an alcoholic for most of my life. Eventually I hit the bottom, living in an unheated caravan, unable to work or feed myself, a semi-functioning wreck. Somehow your brother – the third of we three musketeers – had heard of my plight. He wrote me a letter. It contained no judgments or excoriations. Just a note of kind concern and the offer to help in any way he could, paying for rehab, ensuring I was warmed and fed.'
As Eric told me this, I remembered my ailing, chemotherapy and cancer-ridden brother telling me of his writing this letter and pondering the futility of it. He never had a reply.
'Three weeks later,' Eric continued, 'Peter died. The first of us to go. I couldn't face the funeral.' (In that same bleak cemetery which straddles a wind-blasted hill between Elgin and New Elgin.) 'But I was so struck by the generosity of his spirit, that a man in the last stages of confronting his own death cared enough to take the time to write to me with an offer to help.'
As Eric looked at me, the afternoon sun angling over Lossiemouth lighthouse, his eyes were dry, since it was a tale he had told before.
'I haven't touched a drop of alcohol,' he said, 'from that day 23 years ago. It saved my life.'
I'm sorry my brother never knew, at least in his life, how he had touched and changed our childhood friend. But Eric knows. And now I know, too.
Now that we have renewed contact, I look forward sometime to going to the movies with Eric again. It won't be quite the same, just the two of us. Sadly, where once there were six cinemas and over 30 films a week available in that part of Scotland, now there is only one.